3 steps to let your baby learn to control emotions
Should the baby hold him when he is crying?
What should I do if my baby keeps crying in the middle of the night?
Think about it, do you understand your baby’s emotions?
Do you know how to answer your baby’s emotions correctly?
Accompany your baby to improve EQ Many parents are repeating, overcoming the baby’s mood is always capricious.
In fact, we shouldn’t have too high requirements for babies. After all, they are still children and their ability to control themselves is indeed weak.
Furthermore, the relationship between a person’s self-control ability and EQ (Emotional Intelligence) is very strong.
Unlike IQ (IQ), IQ is more affected by innate conditions, while EQ is more subjected to acquired culture.
If the parent’s IQ is not high, it is almost certainly impossible to raise a child with a high EQ.
In other words, the level of the child’s EQ to a certain extent the performance of parents in daily life.
As the child grows up, parents should accompany the child to improve the EQ, and can start at any time.
Hint: What is EQ? EQ is Emotional Intelligence Quotient (Emotional Intelligence Quotient), originally proposed by American psychologists Charovi (Peter Salovi) and Meyer (John Meyer) in 1990.
Salovey believes that the essence of EQ can be roughly divided into five elements: clearly knowing their emotions, reasonably expressing their feelings, the ability to control the impulse of desire, knowing the feelings of others, and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
3 steps to let the child be the master of emotions. 1. Knowing the emotions. Parents do this. Although the newborn baby will not speak yet, it will also express the inner feelings in other ways.
When you are hungry and your diaper is wet, your baby will usually cry and twist your hands and feet when you are happy.
However, at this time, the baby does not understand what his behavior means.
For newborns, many movements are not entirely due to their own expectations, but may be the performance of some reflex actions, but even so, in the process of interacting with the baby, the parents can still describe the baby’s feelings and let the baby respondHave a basic understanding of your emotions.
From birth, mothers can tell their baby, “You are crying very sad now, because you are hungry!”
Mother feeds you to drink milk, and your stomach will not be hungry after a while!
“When the baby just woke up and wept, the mother could also say,” Baby!
Why don’t you cry because you can’t see your mother, don’t worry, my mother is here with you now!
“Baby will let your baby understand their emotions this way, this is the first step to improve EQ.
As your baby gets older, when he has the ability to express in words, he can be more free and more appropriate to express different emotions.
For example, if you do n’t get something, you will feel “sad”, if your mother is not around, you will feel “lonely”, and if you do n’t do well, you will feel “annoyed”.
2 Accept the emotion parents do this When the baby falls, what do you do?
He said to the child, “No pain!
Don’t cry, don’t cry, you are brave!
“I still hit the floor and said,” Don’t cry!
It (the floor) is really bad!
“I don’t think either of these approaches is particularly good.”
At this point, the parents might as well say, “You fell!
Is it painful?
Come, let me rub it for you.
“This will allow the baby to have a better understanding of his emotions, will not be suppressed, and will not easily express wrong emotions in the future.
Babies will do this and never ignore their emotions.
When the child is crying, some parents may turn around and leave the scene, they think “don’t ignore him, he will stop by himself”.As everyone knows, this practice is extremely harmful to young children.
You know, your baby is crying for a reason.
If his emotions are not always recognized by his parents, the baby will feel very suspicion, do not know where he is wrong, and over time, it is difficult for him to learn how to express emotions correctly.
3 Expressing emotions Parents do this For those wrong ways of venting emotions, they must let the child have a clear understanding, and at the same time tell him that these emotional expression channels are reasonable and acceptable.
If the child likes to hit people as soon as he gets angry, then even after accepting the punishment, he is expected to hit the next time he gets angry. If the parent also punishes the child by “hitting”, then he has moreImpressed, and it’s harder to understand that “hitting” is wrong.
Therefore, parents must accompany the child to find a suitable way of expressing emotions, sometimes speaking out loud, crying a lot or drawing the feelings in his heart.
Babies will feel that emotions are not right or wrong, but they must be expressed in good or bad ways.
Therefore, parents must teach their children to understand this: “You can feel sad, but you cannot hit people; you can be sad, but you cannot drop toys.
“Let your child learn to express emotions more appropriately, rather than venting on other people, things or their own bodies.